Category: Family Law

The Emotional Aspects of Separation

For both married couples, separation is a painful thing. It can be initiated by one, and the other must bear the brunt of the decision. Another member also wants to be “equality” with the spouse who proposes to separate. Both the initiator and the recipient of a tragic decision feel victimized. Imagine a couple in a hot city in Ontario. For them, the matter has not been resolved; they consulted a Vaughan divorce lawyer. The Vaughan separation lawyer successfully arranged the separation. Speaking with the initiator, which in this situation would be the lady (and usually it is), would expose first sensations of sense of guilt at the idea of dividing from her spouse. At this delicate phase, she would be hovering between ideas of jeopardizing or going through the door. The idea of consulting a family lawyer brings the initiator sense of guilt at first. However then, as the months go by, the conviction ends up being even more firm. When the recipient of the decision, which would be the other partner, learns of the unfortunate idea, he starts to pick up sensations of reduced self-confidence, being rejected, denial and also retribution. He likewise attempts to restore the connection at this phase. Specific stages have been recognized in which emotions involved in separation are clearly defined. The first stage is the dissolution of a member of the couple. Usually, this person eventually recommends separation. At this stage, there will be dissatisfaction and concealed dissatisfaction. When trust breaches occur, disputes become more frequent. The person began to weigh the pros and cons of the separation and began to develop strategies to implement the legal separation process. The important difference between the first and second stages is that there is no dissatisfaction with the existing relationship. Before the confession, this stage lasted approximately two years. In the second stage, the displeasure in the relationship was expressed verbally. The irony is that there may be a “honeymoon period” in which unsatisfied spouses will make the last attempt to save the relationship. But soon, this relationship broke up, and the spouse screamed. What followed was a sense of peace of mind that the contents were “finally eliminated.” The initiator will also feel inner pain, doubt and great sadness. This stage occurs approximately 8-12 months before the start of the legal processes. The separation decision constitutes the third stage, which occurs approximately 6-12 months before starting the legal process. This stage is rarely reversible because this idea has caused a lot of thinking. The initiator creates the emotional distance. It is at this stage that the possibility of extramarital affairs increases. Dissatisfaction with the other party increased, and worries about the future of the family began to accumulate. The initiator also felt the need. At the same time, the final recipient of the terrible proposal began to enter Phase 1. In the end, the couple continued their legal proceedings and finally separated officially.

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